Thanks Anne for this great piece. Having some friends for 40yrs - it’s 💯 sooo true. I laughed at what would actually make you mad with them!
Thank you for giving adult friendship the careful consideration it deserves. I was just like you in my 20s and frankly even my 30s - creating a rigid, unspoken and arbitrary set of expectations for my friends to fail at and then ghosting them (please consider this as my entry for my personal shame). Releasing my expectations for my friends and what friendship "should" look like has made all the difference in my life and opened me up to rich experiences and joys. I have now traveled to Costa Rica twice with a friend with whom I don't communicate for months at a time (and years before that). I'm here for unburdening our loved ones AND ourselves from maintenance obligations and cherishing the pleasures of spontaneous moments of connection!!